Part 10 - He called me.
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Was this man my dad???
All of this was going so fast! Sorry that this blog might be one of my shortest but this was literally a 5-10 minute conversation..
Literally talked to one sister Friday AM and by the end of the day had talked with all 3 of them for a total of 6 hours I think. It was a long and exhausting day.
Saturday rolls by.... Nothing.
Sunday AM - My phone rings... and it's a phone number in "Kansas" that I don't recognize. Bill collector? Maybe. Extended car warranty? Probably.
Maybe it's one of my siblings? Maybe it's my brother?
I say "Hello?"....
..and there it is... a voice I've never heard before.
He said "Hello Mark.. this is Caballardo". I understand that I might be your father?
I laughed.. and said "Yes sir... as far as I can tell I think I've solved this puzzle".
and again I tell him the story of how all of this happened. My mom.. Florida, Marines, my uncle, the DNA test and his daughter...
I asked him if he remembered my Uncle Jim.... and he did. He said "Yes, I worked with Jim down in Florida we were both Marine Recruiters". He was my uncles boss. (Apparently a sneaky one too).
I asked him if they called him Gunny Nonamaker - and he said they did. He was a marine machine gunner in his earlier years and the name stuck.
I asked him if he remember my mom.... he did not. It was 42 years ago. My mom told me a story that she got thrown into the military jail for using the washing machines on base and that Caballardo bailed her out of jail. He didn't remember that either.
I can't explain how it made me feel. I was happy and anxious. It was a little weird because it seemed very professional. Very transactional. Not like a typical father and son would talk... a little forced. We didn't chat but for about 5 minutes.
Honestly, I'm the weird one. I really didn't know what to say.... I mean what do you tell your dad about you after 42 years.. where the fuck does one even start?
I cried. I tried not to. I think it was just a little too overwhelming.
At the end of the day I told him "I don't want anything or need anything from you.. I have zero expectations coming into this. I have a happy life. I've done well for myself and I am proud of the things that I have accomplished but the most important thing that I wanted him to know is that I am a good man."
I composed myself.. I keep crying like a little bitch on every one of these calls. Jesus. It's embarrassing.
He said to me "Mark, I understand that I might be your father and I think you deserve to know". He said I understand you want to do a DNA test to confirm. I absolutely confirmed and offered to pay for the tests.
The plan is to send off the DNA for both of us to a 3rd party website called General Genetics Corporation. They specialize in paternity testing and will test in 21 different genetics DNA markers to confirm fatherhood within 99.999999997% accuracy.
Sending off the DNA this week and will let everyone know.... For now everything is on hold while we await the DNA results!!
TUNE IN TO SEE!!!