Updated: Oct 20, 2021
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If you are up to this point... I left you on a cliffhanger with that last one. I'm a jerk. I don't apologize. Matter of fact. I giggled.
OK - SOOOO.. I've pulled up the Social Media Accounts!
Still trying to put together some clues.
At this point - I'm really honed in on her DAD!.. I mean he's the link.
NOW I have a first name and he's got PICS!
......IT WAS ON HIS SOCIAL MEDIA ACCOUNTS
He posted something about being a proud..... MARINE!!!
We jumped on google and looked for this symbol specifically. CONFIRMED.
It's a U.S Marine Corp Logo.
Boy, by this time.. I have a shit ton of DOTS connected.
I have every reason to at least believe that I should reach out to these people and HOPE AND PRAY that one of them will listen to my story.
As I"m looking at her pictures....
HOLY $HIT.. There is definitely a resemblance.
AND... One of them.. LIVES IN FLORIDA!!
It's possible these are my siblings, right??!!
So I call my mom.
Does she know his name is Caballerdo? (It's made up)
She didn't. It was 41 years ago. She did not know him by that name.
ALL I kept thinking about was CLUES....
I needed to connect more dots so that I had a real story if I actually talked to someone.
Where the hell was SCOOB and the Gang when I needed them?? Bastards.
Even this story was too much for that team.
This is crazy as hell, right?
Stuff is really starting to add up!
Let me break it down.
I have several BIG clues by this point
1) "Gunny or Gunner Nonamaker" - Half CHECK
2) Timing added up. Was he in Florida in 1979?
3) My mom met him on Marines Base -CHECK
4) He lived in Florida - CHECK
5) My uncle worked with him TBD
6) He was also "Browner than me" LOL! - CHECK
7) The "Close Relative" that I matched on Ancestry... with HUGE numbers. Also, Named Nonamaker?!? Was his Daughter.... - CHECK
WTF!! The dots are really starting to add up, right?
Now my old head WAS DEFINITELY spinning.
The math was adding up real quick.
Luckily - My "partner in crime" was there with me through this. We talked about all of the possibilities. The could's, would's, and should's... and THANK GOD she was not in my shoes. For everyone's sake!
I'll just come out and say it. My wife is CRAZY ya'll. Balls of steel. She wanted to hop in the car and just drive down to Kansas. Just show up on some peoples door steps. Never give them the chance to say no.
Could you imagine waking up that day.. thinking "it's going to be a fantastic day".... and then *KNOCK, KNOCK*. "Oh, I'm sure it's the mailman"....
Then Mark Sevier jumps out from behind a bush and say's "Surprise MF'Rs!!"
Nice day RUINED!
What if he's married right now?
How would I address this with his family?
I probably should have thought about those things a little more thoroughly before sending messages out.
BUT, I didn't.
I straight up Mark Sevier'd it and just went head first. YIKES!
Imagine what kind of news this is going to be on THEM!?
"Lost, Long, Illegitimate Kid" is not really something you want tattooed on your forehead... it's also the kind of shit you don't want showing up at your door step. So...
Luckily, I have a couple of close friends that were in this "Real Time"... and they gave me good advice. I needed to level set my expectations, and be prepared for a family that might not want to see me or talk to me. Worst case scenario.
**Quick Side Bar**
My wife completely quit watching Real Housewives and the Kardashians when this started... I guess the real life drama was WAY better than that T.V. stuff for sure.
Obviously, this was a completely emotional weekend for me altogether.
I am certainly blessed that I have a BFF that I can lean on when $hit hits the fan.
Saturday NIGHT August 21st:
Contrary to belief - I don't have any social media accounts. I hate Social Media. It's the devil and going to be the end of our society.
So, I downloaded the "Messenger" App on my Iphone... and I sent them all the same message.
The first day I sent one to 3 of my potential siblings, my potential Dad, and their spouses just in case they were "Active" on Facebook. I needed someone to read this and to question WTF I was saying.
Questions that will hopefully lead to answers.
"Hey There - My Name is Mark. This is kind of a crazy ass story but I've never met my father. I did one of those Ancestry DNA kits, and your name popped up as a possible relative. I'm just trying to piece together some details and would love to chat. My number is XXXXXX. Thank you"
Waiting for a response! I'll let you know when I hear back....